The Power of Discipline 7 ways it could change your life

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by Brian Tracy
– Success is tons of discipline.
– Do what you should do when you should do it whether you feel like it or not.
– You can know all about any subject, but unless you discipline yourself to do what
you’re supposed to do you will never succeed.
– With self-discipline you can rise above the average, but without self-discipline it
doesn’t matter how many good qualities, background or finances that you have, you
will never go above average.
1. Self-discipline and Goals
• If you do not know where you are going, you will not know how to get there.
• You will hit every target that you do not aim for.
• A goal that is not written down is like smoke, it just vanishes away.
• Set a deadline for your goal, a time when you want to achieve it. And then set
steps needed to acquire that goal.
• Organize a list by both sequence and priority.
2. Self-discipline and Character
• Hold a higher expectation for yourself more than anyone else and be more lenient
with everyone else.
• When you are under serious pressure is when your true character is revealed.
• Guard your integrity more than anything.
• Circumstances do not make a man, but they do reveal one.
3. Self-discipline and Time Management.
• If you do not conquer yourself, you will be conquered by self.
• Cannot manage time, you can only manage yourself.
• Time lost cannot be regained.
• You cannot save time, but you can spend it differently.
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• Procrastination is the thief of life.
• You could tell the value that something has to you by how much time you spend
doing it.
• It is only by looking how you spend your time will you and the others know what
is important to you.
• The more you discipline yourself to use your time wisely, the happier you will feel
the better quality of life you will live.
4. Self-discipline and Personal Health
• The five “P’s” of health health:
1. Proper weight
2. Proper diet – eat to live, don’t live to eat.
3. Proper exercise – this is important to your health and life. Exercise a
minimum of three times a week.
4. Proper rest – most people do not rest enough, going to bed too late and
not getting enough rest. You need brakes and vacations to recharge.
5. Proper attitude – The more optimistic that you are, the better your health
is. An optimistic person has a better immune system, shielding against
disease and sicknesses. And optimistic person bounces back quicker to
sicknesses problems. Look for the good in every situation.
• Eat less and exercise more.
5. Self-discipline and Money.
• The majority of financial problems is because of a lack of self-discipline and self-
control.
• You must rewire your brain to save
• Spend wisely instead of just spending money because you have it.
6. Self-discipline and Courage.
• Courage is not the lack of fear but controlling that fear.
• Everyone is afraid, but the courageous person will still do what needs to be done
in spite of that fear.
• We can learn to do the opposite of fear.
• If you will imagine doing something, you could say “I can do it” instead of “I can’t
do it” – every time you say “I can’t do it”, it will override fear and build your
courage and boldness.
• There are two types of courage you don’t need it: courage to start (step out and
launch) and courage of patients (to continue on until you have accomplished it).
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• The only way to defeat fear is to face it head-on.
• The companion of fear is worry.
7. Self-discipline and Responsibility.
• Accepting responsibility is one of the hardest things we can do.
• 85% of people never take responsibility for themselves; they blame, complain
and criticize. People get burned by hot coffee and sue the restaurant, fall down
because of negligence and sue someone else, etc. We cannot go through life
blaming everyone else.
• It takes tremendous self-discipline to take responsibility for what happens instead
of blaming others.
• The difference between success and failure is a choice. We must learn self-
discipline to do what we should whether we feel like it or not.
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Public Speaking to Win

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by Dale Carnegie
– Nearly everything powerful in life comes down to how you say it, your persuasion.
– Have an air-tight knowledge of the subject you’re speaking about.
– Use plain language, illustrations and stories.
– Appeal to your listeners by talking
– Preparation requires thinking, studying, and getting to know your subject well.
– What topics should you speak on? Anything that interests you.
– When preparing a speech, collect 100 thoughts about the topic and discard 90 of
them. Be over prepared.
– Notes will distract or destroy any intimacy between the speaker and listener’s. Be very
cautious of using notes. Notes should be the emergency tool, something you have to
make you feel safe but you do not necessarily use them. If you do have to use notes,
make it very discreet, glancing only every once in a while where nobody can detect it.
– Get comfortable with your talk. Walk around practicing it. Rehearse it in your head
and be ready.
– Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is one of the most
important ingredients in selling something or getting something done.
– Every time we speak, we determine the spirit of our listeners. If we are lackadaisical,
they will be as well. If we are not concerned, they will not be concerned either. If we
are reserved, they will be as well. But if we are excited and convinced about what we
are speaking about, our spirit will be contagious.
– Do not lean against the table, do not rock back-and-forth, stand up straight and tall.
Control yourself physically to show that you are at ease and in control, if not they will
know that you are nervous and unprepared.
– Look at your audience as with a sense of what you are saying is urgent and
important.
– Use gestures, they will reveal importance, enthusiasm and excitement.
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– The finest thing that you can do in your speech is not physical or mental, it is spiritual,
loving people. If you can love others and think of others while you’re speaking, it will
make the greatest difference.
– Use certain words while you’re speaking, keywords. Vary your tone of speech going
up and down. Slow down at times and speed up at other times, but do not stay
monotone. Pause before and after important parts of your speech.
– Before your speech, get rested up. It is not good to go before others when you’re
tired.
– Eat sparingly before you speak. Do not eat too much, just enough to nurture you.
– Stand near your listeners, get them all together, breakdown the formalities and be
close to them in order to speak intimately to them.
– The gestures of the speaker should be depend on the character of the speaker. Do
not act like someone you’re not.
– It is seldom that a story is funny, it is often how the story is told that makes it funny.
– Never start a speech by apologizing. Why insult a group of people by telling them that
you are not ready or did not prepare enough, etc.
– Arouse your audience with the first sentence of your speech. Catch their attention
right away.
– Study how magazine and newspaper articles hook readers with their titles. You can
learn more from them then you can from listening to multiple speeches.
– Be very clear, talking in terms that the people understand.
– Talk to the people about subjects that interest them. Remember that everyone’s
favorite subject is themselves.
– Always remember that your audience will be only interested in the subject to the
degree that you are interested in the subject.
– Be distinctive. Do not just use coined phrases that everyone knows, say it in a fresh
way.
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Start

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by Jon Acuff
– Instead of waiting until you are asked to do something or that a certain time comes,
just go ahead and start now.
– People that we think are geniuses were not able to make any shortcuts, they just
started learning at a earlier age.
– Stand on the shoulders of giants.
– Work harder and smarter.
– Luck is a word that lazy people use to describe someone who has worked hard to
make it to where they are at.
– Your practice will determine how you play in the game.
– Don’t climb the entitlement letter – if you have to tell people do you know who I am,
you yourself have already forgotten.
– Both doubt and fear are like muscles, if you keep using them they will only get
stronger.
– You must kill doubt and fear or they will kill you.
– Be lead, be taught, be a learner.
– Learning from others is something that will catapult you to the next level.
– Volunteer and take every opportunity you get to do what you enjoy.
– You’ll never become good if you do not practice and persist.
– Do not spend more time promoting what you do than practicing what you do.
Promoting will make others think that you are a master, practicing will make you a
master.
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Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts

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by Les and Leslie Parrott
– We sometimes say until death do us part, but with so many divorces and struggles in
marriage, we should really say until divorce do us part.
– If we spend as much time planning our marriage as we do planning our wedding,
things may be different. The lack of planning in a marriage has stunted many
marriages.
– There are myths in marriage.
1. We expect the same expectations after marriage that we had before marriage.
Before someone gets married they want to do everything together and spend
every waking moment together, believing that’s how their marriage always will
be but that is not the case.
2. Everything in life and marriage will only get better.
Things do not just magically get better, you have to work through them. The
person you are married to is not perfect it might not be how you imagined, so
you have to work through things.
3. Everything bad will just disappear – Cinderella story mindset.
Many people marry to avoid or escape from unpleasant situations. Most
everyone gets married to improve their well-being but both individuals of the
same thought episode (want to escape or avoid home situation) leads to
frustration.
Marriage in one way is just a way of living, we do not expect to have a rosy
life outside of marriage so why should we when we get married.
4. My spouse will make me whole
These are the people that believe they will be nourished and made whole by
being married. They want to be nourished instead of nourishing.
– Love without intimacy is just an illusion.
– Each individual has their own idea of what love is and the wise spouse will figure out
the definition of their spouse’s love to be able to fulfill it.
– The most powerful sex organ that you have is your brain.
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– Lifelong love does not happen by chance, it’s something that must be worked out by
two individuals working together.
– Three practices that meaningful marriages practice to have lifelong love:
1. Practice meaningful touch.
This is the language of passion.
Successful marriages are diligent to practice meaningful touch.
2. Complement your spouse daily.
Complements feel good, both to give and to receive.
3. Continue dating
Love does not sustain itself, it takes time and effort. Schedule lunches
together or special time together.
– Not listening to your spouse or your marriage. We have a habit of not letting them
finish their idea or jumping to conclusions. Love is cultivated. Listen not just to the
story they’re sharing but to the feelings that come along with what they’re saying.
– Unconditionally accept. Your spouse should not have to walk on egg shells thinking
that if they do not do something exactly how you like it there will be a blowup or they’ll
not be loved.
– Focus on what you have in common instead of the differences. Instead of thinking or
stating that you like sweets and they like salty, talk about how you are both involved in
a specific area, both enjoy a specific hobby, etc.
– After three doctors studied over 6,000 marriages and 3,000 divorce, they concluded
that when a couple has determination to get through something, they almost always
do. Commitment is the mortar that holds them together.
– Happiness in marriage has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with will.
– Life always has un-forseen circumstances that will come your way, and as a couple
you have to determine that no matter what, you will get through them.
– Blaming your spouse for things just takes the responsibility off of yourself and will not
solve any problems.
– Marriage was never meant to make you happy, you are supposed to make your
marriage happy.
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– Couples report that the number one problem in their marriage is the breakdown of
communication. Whether you sync or swim in your marriage will depend on your
communication skills.
– It is so important to learn how to communicate so that your spouse will listen and how
to listen so that your spouse can communicate.
– Nonverbal communication consists of 58% of the communication. The tone in which
you say it consists of 35% and only 7% consists of the words that you say.
– The best way to know how your spouse feels is to put yourself in their shoes. That is
empathy and will help you understand them.
– The communication skills can be narrowed down to six tools:
1. Make “I” statements, not “you” statements.
2. Practice reflective listening.
3. Understand and accept the differences between men and women.
4. Apologize when necessary.
5. Power down and get off line.
6. Communicate through touch.
– Communication is not what you say but what your partner understands what you said.
– Conflict is inevitable in a relationship, but we have to learn to fight in a fair way.
1. Do not run from strife. Avoiding it or not talking about it will not solve the problem.
We have to talk about it.
2. Choose your battles carefully. Although love may be blind, marriage is like a
magnifying glass. Couples cannot decide on what movie to watch, what to eat,
where to go, etc. Learn what can and should be changed as well as learning
what should be overlooked. So before you gripe about something, ask yourself if
it is worth starting a fight over. Some things are gender issues, some things
should be overlooked and something should really be changed.
3. Define the issue clearly. Before you fight, make sure you are clear about what
you’re fighting about – is the argument really about something that happened
yesterday or is this a real issue?
4. State your feelings directly. Do not be general, tell your spouse your exact
feelings and why.
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– It is not so important how you started the argument as it is important how you exit the
argument. Learn to defuse the argument instead of keeping it going.
– A couple that prays together will almost always get through problems and have a
better marriage.
– While praying with each other is important in marriage, praying for each other is just
as important.
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Relationships 101

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by John Maxwell
– Relationships are the glue that hold teams together
– You will be involved with others in almost every stage & area of life, the question is
how successful will you be in the involvement.
– Relationships begin with respect.
– Find common ground to have relationships.
– You must have trust to continue in a relationship.
– Becoming relational will bring you success both individually and corporally (as a
team).
– Understanding one another is very important in relationships.
– The least important word in relationship is “I” and the most important word is “you”.
– Learn to say “thank you” and “I am sorry”. Learn to ask what their opinion is. Don’t
forget to tell them they did a good job. Try to understand them.
– Different people need encouragement in different ways and the failure to understand
this will be the failure to relate and help people.
– People know everyone wants to be somebody with their life. If you treat people as if
they are important, they will understand that you believe in them and see them as
somebody important.
– Everybody can be somebody when you will simply believe in them and do small
gestures to show that.
– Have faith in people even before they have ever accomplished anything.
– Believe in others:
Believe in them before they succeed.
Emphasize their strengths. Focus on their strengths. Tell them how you
appreciate their strengths both privately and publicly.
List their past successes. Help them remember their past successes, that will
help them have confidence in their own-selves.
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Instill confidence when they fail. What people fail, they can either give in or go
on. Many are not strong enough to keep going, so you can help them. Tell them
about your own failures and mess-ups, and how you overcame them.
Experience some wins together. Much of winning is motivation.
Vision casting. Cast of vision for others give them hope.
Expect a new level of living.
– Learn to listen:
• Listen shows respect.
• The ears of a leader should ring with the voices of his people.
• Be impressive by listening, don’t try to be impressive by talking.
• Listening well gains you both friends and respect.
• You can learn about people when you will just listen.
• All great learners are great listeners.
• A problem with many leaders is that they will listen less and less as they get
more authority. They forget how to listen.
• A deaf ear is a sign of a closed mind.
• When you quit listening, people will find someone else who will listen to them.
– Commit yourself to confidentiality and respectability. Be trustworthy with the
information when people talk to you.
– You have to love your people and lead them at the same time.
– Put others ahead of your own needs.
– Just about anyone will serve others when they have to, but very few will initiate
serving others.
– Make it your goal to move through the crowd and find people’s wants and needs.
Then go home and make a list of how you can help those people.
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Radicals and Visionaries

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by Thaddeus Wawro
This book was interesting to me because it gave short biographies of men and women
that were successful. With many, the odds against them and their ideas were not
accepted. They did not necessarily have the money or contacts, but they had a dream
and made it happen. I believe this book can be useful applying to starting a church and
team on the mission field. Don’t be afraid to try new things or to launch out believing
something may be a good idea or may work… you’ll never know if you don’t try.
– Pretend that every person you meet in life has a sign around them that says make me
feel important – this will not only help in business, but also in life.
– Sell your products at a reasonable price and your customers will always come back.
– Satisfied customers will always give you more customers.
– One of the true qualities of a good entrepreneur is the ability to see opportunities that
others do not see and take a risk.
– If you go around asking a lot of full of questions and writing them down, you will likely
succeed.
– Spend less time talking about what you do well it more time on improving what you
don’t do as well.
– Give extra courtesy to people and treat your own people well.
– Treat the community right.
– Treat your shareholders right and they will treat you right.
– Aim to do something better than everyone else.
– You fail if you do not try.
– Success is often achieved by those who do not know failure.
– You don’t have to be a visionary, genius or even college graduate to be successful,
you just need to have a dream.
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– If you can dream it, you can do it – Walt Disney
– Good taste is good business.
– Most successful people do not accept the status quo.
– Give them quality, that is the best advertisement in all the world
– Learn to bounce back after failure.
– Commit to not giving up.
– Get your start by getting started.
– There is only one boss and that is the customer; you can fire everyone from the
chairman on down – Sam Walton.
– Use technology and keep up-to-date with things.
– A firm, unshakable belief in what they were doing is needed.
– A stubbornness to move forward even when people do not agree or do not
understand.
– You have to struggle in order to get what you are aiming for and many people quit at
time of struggles.
– Don’t measure your success in how much money you make but by how good your
product is.
– Treat your employees right:
• Share your profit with your employees.
• Show sensitivity to your employees needs.
• Let both managers and employees make decisions. Give your employees benefits
they can’t get anywhere else.
• Win the respect and trust from your employees.
– When you see a barrier, you can cry, but get a ladder and climb over it.
– Do not let money, problems, popularity, status quo, or anything else stop you from
your dream.
– You have to believe in success and you have to go after it. It is work, it is a positive
outlook, it is courage and it is a dream. The secret of success lies within.
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– Give samples of your product and let people have a taste of it.
– The art of salesmanship is letting the customer have it their way.
– Everyone has talent, it’s just a matter of moving around until you find out what it is.
– Always keep your eye on the operation.
– It is choice, not chance that will determine your testimony.
– If you snooze, you lose. If you have an opportunity, take a chance and put your best
foot forward.
– A product should be needed by many people and should solve a problem.
– No one can be a success unless they love their work.
– Aspire to do something that will make a difference.
– Provide an atmosphere that is good and comfortable for both your employees and
clients.
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The 4–Hour Work Week

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by Timothy Ferriss
– Once you decide you’re settling for second-best in life, that is what you will get.
– Do not try to please everybody.
– There’s a big difference when work is more effective and more fun.
– The perfect timing is almost never right, so don’t wait around for it.
– Emphasize your strengths instead of always trying to improve your weaknesses.
– Money alone is not the solution. Many times laziness is the problem, not a lack of
money.
– Don’t avoid criticism, avoid destructive criticism.
– Action doesn’t always bring happiness but there is no happiness without action.
– Conquering fear = defining fear
– Things do not improve on their own
– Luxury has very little to do with money
– The fear we dread the most is usually the exact thing we need to do.
– Your inaction will cost you more than you can imagine. Measure the cost of inaction.
– It’s as easy as believing it can be done.
– If you are insecure, guess what… the rest of the world is too.
– Boredom is the enemy, not failure.
– You become better by failing better.
– Success can be measured in the amount of awkward conversations and situations
you’re willing to put yourself in.
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– Deal with rejection by persisting.
– Being busy is often an excuse for not doing the few important things you are
supposed to do.
– Effectiveness is doing the things that get you closer to your goals. Efficiency is
performing the task in the most economical manner possible.
– What you do is more important than how you do it.
– Working 9-5 is not the goal, it’s just the structure most people have used.
– Being busy can be a form of laziness.
– The lack of time is actually a lack of priority.
– If you had a heart attach and could only work 2 hours a day, what would you do?
– Decreasing the amount of work is not the goal, the goal is living fuller. Just having
more idle time on your hands will make you go crazy, you have to live fuller.
– Retirees get depressed because of social oppression… and so will you if you do not
live life fuller.
– You have to find something to focus on. You become stressed or board would you do
not have something you can focus on.
– If you cannot define something or act upon it, forget it, there’s no need to worry about
it.
– If you don’t make mistakes, than you’re not working on hard enough problems.
– Time without attention is useless.
– What is the big thing that has been on your list that you have not been able to get to?
Stop and do that first thing in the morning.
– Adversity does not change you, it reveals who you are. Money does the same thing.
– You are never as good as they say you are and you are never as bad as they say you
are.
– No statues are raised to critics.
– A good thing to remember when you were having a meltdown: are you having a
breakdown or a breakthrough?
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– It is usually better to keep all the resolutions instead of making new ones.
– If you will go 21 days without complaining, it is almost like it resets your brain.
– A not-to-do list is almost more effective than a to-do list. (For example: Do not check
email constantly. Do not check email thread before you go to bed or right when you
get up. Do not ramble with people and get to the point. Etc.) Remember that what you
do not do will determine what you do, so make a list of things to not do.
– Learn to prioritize; you cannot do everything or please everyone.
– Never make the first offer when negotiating, let the other person give a price.
– Identify what excites you and what bores you.
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