As a Man Thinketh

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By James Allen
– Man is made or unmade by himself
– We must armor our mind with what God has given us.
– Man holds the key to the problems that happens to him and can use those keys to
open up or leave shut to the problems.
– Seek and you can find, knock if it shall be opened.
– Man will receive the harvest of the seeds that he has sown. Your mind is the garden
and what you place in your mind will be harvested, good or bad.
– Good thoughts bring good fruit and bad thoughts bring bad fruit.
– Men do not attract what they want rather what they are.
– Nothing but corn can come from corn and nothing but thorns can come from thorns,
so nothing good can come from a bad thought.
– The world is your Kaleidoscope and the beautiful colors that you see are made from
the images your thoughts produce.
– Change of diet will not help a man when there’s no change of thoughts.
– If you want to perfect your body, perfect your mind. If you want to perfect your mind,
perfect your thoughts.
– A sour face does not come by chance, it is made by sour thoughts.
– To live constantly with thoughts of envy, ill will or negativity, is to place yourself in a
dark prison.
– As a physically weak person can make themselves strong by training and exercise,
so a mentally weak person can make themselves strong by learning to think the right
thoughts.
– He who has conquered doubt and fear has conquered failure.
– A man can only rise, conquer and achieve by lifting up his thoughts. He can only
remain miserable and weak by not lifting up his thoughts.
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– A man ascends or descends according to his thought life.
– Dreams are the seedlings of your thoughts.
– You always gravitate to that what you most love.
– You always fall or rise to your thoughts.

Better Dads Stronger Sons

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by Rick Johnson
– Before we can become godly fathers, we must become godly men.
– Start living your life by serving others and making a difference in the lives of others.
– To raise noble men, we must be noble fathers.
– You might not think that your life is that influential, that you do not do much to make a
difference, but your son does think you are special.
– Godly father’s put the needs of others before their own.
– Even if you don’t think that you are perfect for the job, God specifically chose you for
your family.
– Live a life of intentional fathering instead of just reacting to whatever comes along the
way.
– Being a good father is not so much how good of a parent you are but how good of a
person you are – be a person of character.
– Maturity in a man begins not at a age but in the acceptance of being that man.
– Pray for your children at night as they go to bed – pray for their future spouse, purity
and walk with God.
– Fathers damaged by their fathers, will pass along the same baton. You must reconcile
with your father for the sake of your son.
– Fathers are a necessity to their sons, they fill a gap that only a father can fill.
– Everyone needs a cheering section your affirmation to your son will do more than a
stadium full of people cheering him on.
– Time is the greatest commodity that you can give to your son.
– Show your son physical affection, don’t be afraid to hug him and give him a kiss. May
sound crazy or not manly, but showing your son affection will pay great dividends later
on. Love your son.
1 Beter Dads Stonger Sons by Rick Johnson Book Summary by Jeffrey Bush
– Your kids are not so impressed with all of your accomplishments, what impresses
them is the time that you spend with them.
– Your kids want to love and respect you, not because of how much you make or what
you do but because of who you are – God made it like that and it is one of his
precious gifts to us.
– Your son needs your time much more than your money.
– Sadly many of the regrets of a father are not things that he did, but things that he did
not do – spend time with your children.
– You have the power to hurt or help peoples lives, treat them with respect.
– Rules should be reasonable and arbitrary.
– We should treat our sons like God treats us, giving them a reason to love and obey
instead of demanding and provoking.
– Isolation is death to any person – your son needs you and your son needs to see that
you have friends so that he can have friends as well as know how to be a friend.
– Your son needs to know how to handle problems and deal with difficult times – be that
right example for him.
– A boy’s tendency is to become what you want him to become, so instill the right
character traits in them. Teach and remind them to be loving, God-fearing, helpful,
and person of integrity.
– Teach your son self-discipline, self-control, integrity, courage and respect. There are
many character traits that have been lost throughout generations and no one better
than a dad can teach his son.
– All children need rules and guidelines set in their life, especially boys. But our goal as
fathers is to not just teach discipline, but self-discipline.
– Everyone needs to be accountable to someone. We need each other, that is how God
made us.
– How well you prepare your son for life is how well he will be able to face life when he
is out of the house. Teach him about debt, good work ethic and responsibilities.
– Perhaps one of the best things that you can give your son is teach him how to love
his wife are you loving yours.
2 Beter Dads Stonger Sons by Rick Johnson Book Summary by Jeffrey Bush
– Your son will consciously or subconsciously view his marriage and treat his spouse as
he learned from you.
– Your wife is your greatest asset to your children; she can build you up, respect and
speak good about you to the children in ways that you could not.
– God gave you your wife and she is the mother of your children, so make sure that
divorce is nowhere in your vocabulary. God hates divorce and divorce greatly hurts
children.
– Children need to know that mom and dad love each other, it gives them a sense of
security about your love towards them as well as stability in life.
– Talk to your son about sex. Remember that you looked and thought about sex at a
young age and so will he — and in today’s world it may be worse than when you were
growing up. He needs accountability just like you do.
– Do not leave sex education up to the school system. Yes it is difficult, but you have to
decide to talk to your son. He has questions, be the one to answer them instead of
letting his friends, the school and society inform him.
– Our sons are the future and fathers of tomorrow. They need good role models.
– Your son needs mentoring. Not just teaching on rules or big subjects but small,
practical things of life as well.
– Not only does your son need you, he needs a good role models from teachers,
spiritual leaders, and relatives that will be the right example. Not only is it our
responsibility to find good role models for our sons, we also must be role models for
other boys.
– 70% of men in prison are from fatherless homes – this is a shame on those dads. We
must mentor more than just our sons, there are other young men out there that need
our help.
– Encourage your son to be a reader. Our society makes reading look like it is not
manly but reading can help your son learn more and make better decisions. Let him
see you reading, leave books laying around the house and provide him with good
material.
– Continue being teachable even as a dad.
3 Beter Dads Stonger Sons by Rick Johnson Book Summary by Jeffrey Bush
– The most powerful tool that you can use with your son is to pray for him every day.
Pray that God gives you wisdom and pray that your son knows Jesus at an early age.
Pray with your wife for your son, she has a big role in his life as well.
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Black Like Me

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John Howard Griffin
True story of a man who paints his skin or dies his skin black and shaves his head to
see how the racist tension is towards him as a black man. He is immediately accepted
by the black people and they give him a place to stay, warn him and help him along the
way. The white people discriminate by calling him names, not letting him sit down or use
restrooms in certain places, and much more. He kept his name Though he keeps the
same name or does not change his voice, he was not rejected by the whites but was
excepted by the black just because of his skin color
Pretty interesting that just because of the color of his skin he is totally accepted by the
blacks and finds out that they are nice, cordial and protective over their “own people”.
His observation is that the blacks love their kids like white people, they are moral or
inmoral just like white people, etc.
The missionary application reminds me of Hudson Taylor, a man who rejected the
western culture to become Chinese in his dress, culture and food diet. The westerners
rejected him, but the Chinese accepted him.
If a missionary keeps his “American attitude” (believing he is superior) he will be treated
as an outsider, but if he will jump into the culture and become like the people, he will be
accepted, loved and protected by the people he is working with.
1 Black Like Me by John Howard Griffin

Boundaries in Marriage

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by Henry Cloud & John Townsend
– Boundaries help us determine where something begins or something ends.
Boundaries also help us determine ownership as well as responsibilities. Boundaries
also Provide protection (to keep the bad out and the good in).
– 10 laws of boundaries:
1. The law of Sowing and Reaping.
– Our actions have consequences.
– The old saying that you hurt most the ones you love most is very true.
2. The law of Responsibility.
– The spouse has to feel responsible for the feelings of the other spouse.
– We are responsible to each other but not for each other.
– Gal 6:2,5
3. Law of Power.
– You have the power to change yourself.
– Many times we do that which we do not want to, but we do have the power
to change it.
– We have to take the beam out of our own eye first – Matthew 7:1–5
– We cannot change others, but we can influence them for the good.
4. Law of Respect.
– If we wish for others to respect our boundaries, we have to respect their’s.
– Dying to your wishes and seeing things their way.
5. Law of Motivation.
6. Law of Evaluation.
– Sometimes we need to go through pain or rough times to learn a lesson.
– You must decipher if the pain leads to injury or it leads to growth… if to
injury, than change, but if it leads to growth than bear the pain and learn.
7. Law of Proactivity.
– Proactive boundaries keep freedom.
– Proactive people deal with or face problems all the time, but they hold onto
the love they have.
1 Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud & John Townsend Book Summary by Jeffrey Bush
8. Law of Envy.
– Envy is focusing on what others have instead of what we have. Always
comparing and looking at others.
– Adam and Eve felt envy in the garden of Eden when they had everything
that they could want except for one thing… and they wanted that.
– Envy is miserable.
9. Law of Activity.
– This law states that we should take action and fix our problems instead of
staying passive.
– It is taking initiative.
– Active people make many steaks and wise people learn from those
mistakes.
– All that evil needs to abound is for people to do nothing.
10. Law of Exposure.
– Law of exposure states that we must be clear and talk about what our
boundaries are. Your spouse should know where lines are drawn, but cannot
know unless you talk about them.
– Problems can be resolved and even avoided when boundaries are exposed.
When things are talked about, they can be agreed-upon.
– We must take responsibility for our own lives, we cannot shift the responsibility to
others.
– Boundaries with ourselves are much more important than boundaries in our marriage.
– Anytime we put our eyes on our own good, we are taking our eyes off of our own
need for love and forgiveness.
– You cannot make your spouse grow up, but you can’t let their immaturity avoid some
of the consequences it brings.
– Our highest calling to our spouses is to love them, just like our highest calling as a
Christian is to love God.
– We should not try to play God in our marriage – when we try to act like God, we fail to
love our spouse because we are trying to fix them.
– We could not live in denial. We cannot say that we are without sin or problems – 1
John 1:8. The opposite of denial is confession.
2 Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud & John Townsend Book Summary by Jeffrey Bush
– Thinking that the sun rises and sets on us is damaging and destructive to our
marriage. We must give more of ourselves than we might be comfortable with.
– Marriage exposes our weaknesses and failures to our spouse.
– Love cannot grow in an environment of fear.
– We must respect our spouses “no”.
– Do not punish a bad decision.
– We should not use guilt to con or get our own way.
– The golden rule, Jesus’ words on treating others like we would want to be treated, is
the answer to how the marriage should be ran.
– Spouses should complete and complement each other, making them better
– Mature spouses always think of the needs and feelings of the other person.
– Valuing your wife’s opinion does not mean that you cannot do it without him or her, it
means you care and want to know what they think.
– Allow a person the freedom of being different
– Galatians 5:13–14
– If you try to control or restrict your spouse, your companionship is destroyed.
– We should remember that ultimately we have to respond to God for how we treat
each other. Our marriage is more than just about our spouse, it is about our God as
well.
– You may want to give into the temptation to ignore or not listen, snapback or not care,
but remember that you must submit to God and do what he teaches and commands.
– God’s ways work and if you would just do them, your marriage will work as well.
– The Bible teaches us to love our neighbor as ourselves. That means you so deeply
identify the feelings of your spouse that you identify her feelings as your feelings.
– Look past your behavior to the affects of your behavior.
– See your spouse as if you were him/her – would you want to be treated like that?
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– Make a commitment to your spouse, enter into a covenant. God makes a covenant
with us, that he would love us and never leave us. Hebrews 13:5.
– If someone is not committed in marriage, and if leaving is an option, then why try to
work it out and go through the pain, isn’t it easier just to leave? Some do not leave
physically, but they do leave emotionally… taking their heart out of it.
– A runner can not see the finish line when he’s only halfway through the race, but the
commitment to finish will keep him going. And so it is with marriage, the commitment
to continue may take give you what you need to see it you through.
– Commitment provide security to your spouse that you are going to continue even
through hard times.
– Love is the foundation for marriage, love for God and love for the other person. It is
sacrificial, giving and selfless.
– Deception undermines love; lying in a marriage does harm but the lying itself does
much more than what is being lied about.
– Intimacy comes from knowing the other person on a deep level.
– If you are to have a good relationship, you must commit to each other to be honest –
but remember that you must show grace when your spouse is being honest.
– Many things compete for your love. A marriage does not stay strong just because you
started off with a good marriage, you must work at it.
– As a bank guards it’s money, so a marriage must guard it’s most valuable thing, love.
– Here are some intruders that weakens the bond of marriage: work, kids, outside
hobbies and interests, TV, in-laws, financial strains, friends, addictions, affairs, etc.
Some things are not bad in themselves, but if not careful, they can be intruders in a
marriage.
– Marriage is not supposed to be the end-all of fulfillment, that would be idolatry. God is
the only one who could fulfill us completely. Colossians 1:17
– Date nights are a very important instrument that can prevent intruders in a marriage.
Intimacy is another way to prevent intruders in a marriage.
– If you have character issues, do not blame it on your spouse.
– You cannot fix a problem if:
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1. You do not recognize it. (if you will not admit it and do not see it, nothing will
get better.)
2. You will not talk about it. (you have to talk about it to fix things)
3. You will not own it. (Confess, apologize, or forgive if needed.)
– Remember the basic laws of communication:
1. Listen and try to understand the other person.
2. Empathize with the other person.
3. Do not devalue what the other person is saying by defending or justifying, just
listen.
4. Clarify what the other person is saying by asking questions.
5. Use “I” statements letting the person know that you understand and take
responsibility.
– Boundaries work best when both of the spouses agree. Love flourishes when both
spouses respect and receive the boundaries of the other.
– Revenge is not an option for us, revenge belongs to God.
– Ignoring a problem will not make it better. Time alone does not heal things, you must
face it and fix it.
– Almost never is their a problem in that one spouse is 100% wrong and the other
spouse 0% wrong, almost always there is a shared blame a problem.
– Forgiveness is burning the account.
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C. H. Spurgeon, The People’s Preacher

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by Peter Morden
– He wrote for books a year.
– Started many chapels (churches, bible studies and preaching points all over)
– He supported many of the ministries he started by his book royalties.
– Had 2 secretaries that helped specifically with all of the letters he received.
– He had a 12,000 volume library.
– Many pastor said he was vulgar in the pulpit and did not like his way of preaching.
– Wrote a magazine called the sword and the trowel and had it sent out everywhere.
– Started of the pastors college because young men wanted to learn about ministry.
– He held classes every Friday and would teach.
– Worked on messages and although he wrote many messages, he threw away several
while looking for what to preach. He would thumb through the Bible until a passage
gripped him so much that he knew that’s what he was supposed to preach.
– He wanted to make the church larger but the deacons would not let him so one day
while he was preaching he turned around and said, “like the walls of Jericho fell, by
faith may this wall will come down.”
1 C. H. Spurgeon, Te People’s Preacher by Petr Morden

Career, Find your True Gift

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by Anthony Robbins
– When you enjoy your work, it’s like a miracle.
– Fulfillment in life is growing and giving. When you work, and do what you like, you’re
giving meaning to your life. People that do not have fulfillment in life, lose excitement
in life.
– The secret of really being fulfilled is to know what your gift is and do that.
– Many people are successful but they are not happy because they are not doing what
fulfills their life’s gift.
– All of us have an in-born talent but finding it and using it is the beauty.
– No one ever on their deathbed wished that they would’ve spent more time in the
office.
– Learn to understand people so that you can enter into the world. By doing this, you
can eliminate so much stress people carry.
– There is power in concentration, when you concentrate your focus.
– Figure out what you want and what skills you need to get it and then find someone or
something to help you get the skills and achieve your goal.
– If you do not feed your mind with good stuff, other things will end up growing there.
Just like a garden, when you don’t plant or take care of it, weeds just show up.
1 Career, Find your True Gift by Antony Robbins

Courageous

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by Bill Hybels
– The local church is the hope in this world and it primarily lies upon the leadership of
its leaders.
– One of the most powerful weapons a leader has is his vision
• Pray God gives you a vision – it may come from reading Scripture, it may
come from seeing something or hear something, etc.
• Have you fasted, prayed and asked to hear from God? Have you traveled and
seen the need? Have you visited other ministries to be open and able to think?
Have you closed out the noise of every day sounds and busyness so that you
can better receive what God wants to give you? You must internally prepare
your heart for God to speak to you and you must externally prepare yourself by
visiting and seeing the need and what is going on.
• We must embody the vision and live it out passionately so others know we
believe it.
• We must learn how to communicate the vision. Talk about it collectively and
individually.
• Vision creates ownership.
• Vision provides focus
– Build a dream team
• A team of people that has Character (someone who lives right), Confidence
(someone who knows how to do it) and Chemistry (someone that can get
along with me and others).
• Don’t overlook the people that are currently with you. Some of the greatest
leaders that can for part of your team are already working amongst you as
volunteers and church members.
• Make sure the right people are in the right position.
• Raise the level of communication within your team.
1 Courageous by Bil Hybels Book Summary by Jeffrey Bush
• Award team members for a job well done. Paul mentioned names at the end of
his books of the people that had worked and helped in ministry.
• As spiritual leaders, you have the greatest blessing to get to work in ministry,
but we can do it with a team of people and enjoy every step of the way.
– Teach on giving in the church.
• God can supply much more than anyone else and he places people in our
churches to help and give… but we have to teach them and make them aware.
• Most spiritual leaders believe that everyone understands what giving is and the
needs of a church are, but most people do not understand how to give, why to
give and what the giving is for.
• A spiritual leader should give a yearly series on financial administration of a
Christian’s money.
• Where does the money go? People want to know, need to know and have a
right to know. Who makes the decisions? What are the needs? Finances
should be explained and there should be an open book policy about the
finances.
– Leadership at its core is influence, so keep your eyes open for people who can
influence others.
• Pray for those leaders you’re going to have on your team and then intrust them
with responsibilities.
• If you find someone who is an influencer, then check to see if they have strong
character.
• Next see if that person has people skills, can they listen and get along with
people. Does that person have a concern and compassion for others? Can
they relate to other people?
• Next, see if they have drive. You want people who have drive on your team.
People who have enough energy to energize others.
• Finally, look for people who have intelligence. We’re not talking about someone
with a good SAT score, we are talking about street-smart, someone who
understands things.
– While we can differ on how to teach someone, we can definitely agree that it takes a
leader to train another leader.
2 Courageous by Bil Hybels Book Summary by Jeffrey Bush
– What will energize you to keep going as a leader is to see other leaders that you have
help along the way now succeeding.
– Morale is super important. When a leader sees that morale is sagging, it is his job to
raise it up. There are too many people that can attest that they have never received a
note of encouragement or boost of morale from their leader. Your staff, paid or
unpaid, should receive encouragement from you as the leader.
– Effective leaders have to lead in each direction – north, south, east and west. Those
above them, below them and around them.
– One of the hardest people to lead is yourself.
– We as leaders must grow ourselves.
• May God give us a heart of optimism like David.
• May God give us a heart of love like Jonathan. Love is better than vision.
• May God give us a heart of integrity like Joseph. Power tends to corrupt, but
Joseph did not let power corrupt him. Joseph saw his leadership as an
administration for and from God.
• May God give us a heart of decisiveness like Joshua. Joshua stood up and
said, “choose you this day whom you will serve but as for me and my house
we will serve the Lord” (24:15). Joshua made a decision and stood by it. We
must be leaders who can make decisions and help other people make
decisions, we cannot cowered away from this.
• May God give us courage like that of Esther. She was willing to do what’s right
no matter if it cost her position, status or even her own life. We must lead our
ministries with courage.
• May God give us wisdom like that of Solomon. We need wisdom to discern
what to do how to do things.
• May God give us confidence in him like that of Jeremiah. Yet moments of
discouragement, crying and disappointments, but he still trusted and confided
in the Lord.
• May God give us victory to celebrate like that up Nehemiah. At times of
building, stopped to celebrate and share the victory with others.
• May God make us like Peter, willing to step out and take action. Peter messed
up multiple times, but he was still not afraid to step out and take action.
3 Courageous by Bil Hybels Book Summary by Jeffrey Bush
Although he sank in the water, he was the only want to get out of the boat.
Although he said sometimes more than he could do, he was the only one who
would make commitments many times.
– Leaders need different activities to help not let stress build up.
– Leaders need safe people in whom they can share and be accountable to in many
areas.
– Leaders need the right perspective to get through problems and every day life. We
need an internal perspective, remembering that these things are temporal and
remember why we are doing what we are doing.
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